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From Golden Child to Grown-Up Narcissist? The Perils of Overpraising Your Kids
Too many gold stars in childhood can lead to adult-sized ego problems. Here’s why balance matters
The Praise Trap: When Encouragement Becomes a Problem
Praise is vital for a child’s development. It builds confidence, fosters resilience, and helps kids navigate challenges. But what happens when praise goes too far? Instead of nurturing healthy self-esteem, overpraising can create a need for constant validation.
Dr. Yasmine Liénard, a psychiatrist and psychotherapist, warns that excessive admiration can hinder emotional growth. When children are repeatedly told they’re extraordinary, they internalize the belief that only perfection deserves recognition. This mindset often leads to a lifelong struggle with self-worth, rooted in external approval.
The danger? An endless pursuit of perfection and a fragile self-image that crumbles under criticism.
Overpraising doesn’t build resilience; it breeds perfectionism.
Perfectionism: The Pressure to Always Shine
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