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Love on the Rocks: How We Wreck Relationships Without Even Knowing It
Stop Self-Sabotage and Break Free from the Patterns that Keep You Stuck
We all dream of love, but sometimes, we’re the ones standing in our own way. Unconscious fears — like the fear of abandonment or being too vulnerable — often trigger self-sabotaging behaviors. What’s worse? We might not even realize it. In this article, we’ll dive into the sneaky ways we undermine our own relationships and explore how to break free from these destructive patterns.
The Silent Killer: Fear of Vulnerability
One of the main culprits behind self-sabotage in relationships is the fear of vulnerability. Being open with someone means showing your true self — warts and all. But for many, the idea of letting their guard down feels like opening the door to potential hurt.
To avoid this, we may create distance, whether by shutting down emotionally, picking fights, or staying aloof. This keeps us safe — or so we think. The truth? It isolates us from the very people we want to connect with. It’s like building a fortress around your heart, only to find yourself alone inside it.
How to fix it:
Start small. Practice vulnerability by sharing something minor but personal. Gauge the…
